This post will seek to help people better their chances of avoiding sexual assault. This is a pretty heavy matter for a Killer J blog, but since I’m in the field I figure I can weigh in from time to time. Part one of this series discussed some of society’s misguided attempts at preventing sexual assault.
I work primarily with sexual assault perpetrators. A part of my job is helping the perpetrator develop insight in to why they did what they did. My years of experience have given me a perspective on sexual assault that seems to clash with a lot of what is considered to be “common knowledge” regarding sexual assault.
Most rape prevention classes prepare women to deal with the ogre lurking in the bushes with a roll of duct tape in hand. You know, the type that jumps from the bushes on unsuspecting woman joggers. The class will teach a woman to scream, yell, kick, punch, and run. For this type of sexual assault, this is probably the best method for dealing with it. The problem is these types of assaults are a small percentage of what actually occurs. Women end up getting trained for a rare situation.
Typically, a sexual assault occurs when a woman finds herself in a situation in which the perpetrator has manipulated, bribed, coerced, blackmailed, or pressured her in to a horrible situation. Through the perpetrator’s manipulative tactics, the woman feels like she can’t back out. While not consenting, but also not physically fighting back, the woman ends up going through the movements while dreading every moment of it.
Part three of this blog will wrap up by providing an inside look at the mind of the perpetrator in these types of situations. A person that commits a sexual assault must go through four barriers. They must first, have the motivation to sexually assault somebody. Then, they must overcome their own internal barriers (conscience). Third, they must overcome external barriers (avoid getting caught), and then finally, they must overcome the victim’s resistance. Part three will break this down in to more detail, hopefully providing insight in to the mind of the perpetrator, enabling women to be more prepared to deal with a dicey situation and avoid being victimized.