Guerrilla Social Work Podcast

If you happen to check this blog, you’ve probably noticed I haven’t posted in a bit.  All my Killer J blog time has been redirected to a podcast.  I’m not done blogging, but that’s my excuse for the absence.  We’re on iTunes, Podbean, YouTube, and probably some other stuff.

Check it out!


Everybody’s An Expert

Have you ever met somebody that believes they are smarter, funnier, or more athletic than they really are?  Of course you have.  People like that are everywhere.  Hell, you probably are one of those people!  I know I “probably” am. 🙂  The Dunning-Kruger Effect explains this phenomenon, as it is a concept in psychology that presumes incompetent people tend to overestimate their ability in a given area.  Ask ten people if they consider themselves to be an above average driver, and I’ll bet most, if not all say they are above average.  That’s the Dunning-Kruger Effect at play.  How can everybody be above average?

The Dunning Kruger Effect is pretty easy to spot.  You hear it in everyday conversation:

While watching MMA with a group of friends, somebody will invariably say, “Why’d that guy let the other guy take him to the ground like that?  I’d have just punched him!”

MMA: UFC Fight Night-Maia vs LaFlare

“Just stand up!”

Watching football, “Oh my God, how’d he miss that tackle?  Just wrap the guy up and tackle him!”


“Just tackle him!”

Discussing politics, “All _____-wing people are complete idiots!  If they’d just _________, our society would be great!”

left vs right

Put your blinders on and pick a team. ‘Merica!

In medicine, “Doctors are idiots.  No way am I getting my kid vaccinated.  I know better.”

Jenny McCarthy

Jenny McCarthy, M.D.?

So, what can be done about a person that sucks at something, but thinks they are good?  They have to work on and develop considerable skill or knowledge in that given area in order for them to assume some humility and realize, “Hmm, I thought I knew about ______, but come to find out, I don’t know shit!”

Dunning Kruger

Dunning Kruger Effect (not my chart)

So, that self-righteous, finger-wagging dope that consistently rants about politics on your Facebook feed would have to humble themselves enough to genuinely learn the perspective of the “other side” in order for them to truly realize their belief system is based on a shaky, superficial understanding of things.  The mouth-breather watching MMA while yelling at the fighter on television to “Just stand up!” needs to get off the damn couch, step on the mat and get their ass kicked, i.e. learn, for a few months to realize what they thought they knew about fighting is laughable.

So, here is your challenge, dear reader.  Check yourself for incompetence!  Examine the beliefs you are certain you are right about, and open yourself up to the possibility that you probably don’t know what you’re talking about. The Dunning Kruger Effect doesn’t discriminate.  It can afflict all of us!

Challenge Yourself

We all have plenty of things to stress about.   Adding an additional, challenging thing to your life is probably not at the top of your list of things to do.  After a full day of nonsense, you probably want to plop down on the couch and call it a night.  There is some value in chilling out after a grind of a day, but when your “relaxation time” is continually spent being unproductive, it’s all too easy to fall in to a muted existence.  Many people enter a depressing pattern of going to work, paying bills, taking care of family issues, and then possibly disengaging their mind through the distraction television, movies, and social media provide before falling asleep only to do it all over again.  Boredom become the norm.


(not my image)

If you can relate to this, then pull yourself out of the doldrums by doing something hard!  Our minds are wired to make us feel great when we engage in a difficult task, struggle through it, and then achieve some sense of success.   Climb a mountain.  Pick up a foreign language. Learn effective ways to choke people.  Do something!


Experience and Rule Breaking

I have worked as a mental health therapist for twelve years and have been doing jiujitsu for almost ten years.  So, I have a decent amount of experience in both endeavors.  Both my profession and my passion require a lot of technique, and for beginners of either activity, the nuances of that technique might not be readily apparent.


From day one, I was taught to learn and drill technique for both.  Sound technique has saved me from getting choked unconscious by people countless times!  It’s also helped me while grappling people.  Developing proficiency in technique is how I improve; and is critical when I am confronted with some brute trying to hyper-extend my arm or getting through to a sullen teenager that was drug to my office by her parents because she won’t do her homework.

Recently, I’ve begun to discover it’s possible to break from technique and use “bad” form in certain situations.  It takes a lot of experience in a given activity to know when it’s okay to break from technique, as the consequences of doing so can be disastrous.  If I have my opponent’s back and while going for a rear naked choke I happen to break from good technique by crossing my feet in front of my opponent, I’m going to get ankle locked by anybody that’s been grappling for more than one month.  If I’m talking with a client that is processing their trauma and I take a break from good technique by having them talk about too much too soon, I run the risk of re-victimizing them right in my office.  Both those options suck.

The thing is, an experienced grappler will come across situations in which breaking from the use of “good technique” is correct, just as an experienced therapist will know when to push their client a little bit, even if it may appear to be a break from standard clinical practice.

I’m sure this concept has carry over to a lot of other domains as well.  Have you noticed this dynamic anywhere?

Motivation vs. Discipline

We are just over a month deep in to the New Year.  Have you already procrastinated your well intentioned resolutions until “next year,” or are you still going strong?  Your answer to that question likely tells the story as to whether you rely solely on motivation to achieve goals, or if you are also disciplined.


Understanding Motivation 

Motivation can be defined as the reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way, or the general desire or willingness of someone to do something.  Motivation provides the source of energy and inspiration to change something in your life.  Source of motivation for a person can come from inside oneself or external environmental factors. Source of motivation can arise from both positive and negative emotions.  A person can be motivated by wanting to achieve a higher level of functioning in a given area because they believe a reward may come from achieving that higher level of functioning.  For example, a person may choose to enroll in welding courses at a trade school so as to boost their future earning potential. In this case, a person is motivated to change a behavior because they believe a payoff will be realized once they change.  Or a person can be motivated to change based on a negative emotion or experience.  If you put your jeans on one morning and find that your gut has expanded such that you no longer need a belt to hold your pants up, you will either be happy that, through excess calorie consumption, you have efficiently consolidated the need for clothing accessories, i.e., a belt, OR, the more likely outcome, is you’ll feel a bit ashamed for letting yourself go.  The consequence of feeling shame is not a desirable feeling, therefore, you may be motivated to purchase some running shoes and leafy greens rather than Baconators and Ben & Jerry’s.  In any case, motivation serves as the emotional impetus for initiating behavioral change.

Understanding Discipline

 Discipline, in the sense we are talking here, is from the verb form of the word, and can be defined here as the act of training oneself to do something in a controlled or habitual way.  Discipline is a critical component to achieving goals; and is perhaps more important for long term maintenance of a new behavior than motivation.  Discipline, in the context of goal achievement, is a system for starting and then maintaining the new behavior.  This system is comprised of consistent, structured scheduling of the new behavior in to one’s routine, and the accompanying mindset of being willing to consistently do the behavior even if the motivation to do it isn’t there.  Motivation can be fleeting.  Some days a person may feel like engaging in the behavior they set out to do.  Other days, they may not feel like it because their motivation is low for whatever reason.  That’s the problem with relying on motivation alone.  It is fleeting.  Discipline, however, is constant.  A disciplined person engages in the behaviors whether or not they feel motivated to do so.

Understanding How To Blend Motivation And Discipline

Consider the metaphor of an internal combustion engine.  Motivation can be thought of as the starter motor.  In order to get the engine going, the starter motor must initially engage the engine.  Once the engine is up and running, it becomes self sustaining and the starter motor is no longer needed.  Discipline, in this sense, is the engine.   Both motivation and discipline are needed to start and then maintain a new behavior, but discipline is much more important for long term success.  Once a person is disciplined in consistently repeating a new behavior, a self-sustaining effect is generated, rendering the need for motivation as much less important.


Source of inspiration for this blog entry:

Safe Spaces: A Jiujitsu Based Critique

Safe Spaces are places where people who feel marginalized on account of race, gender, sexual orientation, etc. can go and escape hate speech and rigid belief systems.  Sounds reasonable.  Everybody deserves to feel safe.  I believe the way Safe Spaces are being applied, however, actually serve to reinforce the dogmatic thinking they are seeking to avoid.

Let’s take a contemporary belief held by some groups of people that would send a gaggle of college freshmen running for a safe space: “Transgender people should use the bathroom that corresponds with the sex they were assigned at birth.”  When a person articulates this belief out loud,  Safe Space folks go running, pausing only to look over their shoulder and yell, “Bigot!” before tuck and rolling in to their sanctuary.  Within the Safe Space, like-minded people reassure one another their belief holds the moral high ground, and any that oppose the belief within the Safe Space are denounced as regressive throwbacks.  The original person that stated their belief about transgender people’s bathroom usage maintains their belief, unchanged by the Safe Spacer’s tantrum.  The Safe Spacer’s belief is left unchanged; maintained and reinforced by his peers within the Safe Space.  The Safe Spacer’s belief, “Transgender people should use whatever bathroom they please (which I endorse, by the way)” becomes the Absolute Truth; especially when championed by University faculty.  This is dogma.  Beliefs unchecked due to being derived behind the shield of the Safe Space become dogma.  Now, bear with me as I talk about jiujitsu.  I’ll come back around to this Safe Space stuff in a minute.

Unless you have been living under a rock since 1993, you probably are aware that jiujitsu fundamentally changed the way we think about effective fighting.  A skinny Brazilian choked out bigger, badder dudes trained in movie-friendly martial arts like Kung Fu and Karate all the way to a tournament victory.  The Jiujitsu player did this by not adhering to the dogma inherent to many traditional martial arts.  Jiujitsu is one of the few martial arts that can be trained at 100% without a big risk of injury.  Due to this, jiujitsu practitioners are able to determine very quickly what techniques are bullshit, and what techniques have merit.  Bullshit techniques are flushed down the toilet quickly, as the application of said technique leads to the person applying it getting strangled.  Getting strangled has a funny way of discouraging a person from doing whatever it was that immediately preceded their opponent’s arms from cutting the blood flow to their brain.  On the flip side, when you successfully pull off a technique you have drilled, and then do it again and again, it reinforces you to add that effective technique to your arsenal.  When your opponent does everything they can to keep you from beating them, but you pull off the technique and beat them anyway, you have developed confidence in that technique through your own effort in learning, drilling, and applying it.

Traditional martial arts, however, have a different approach.  Many of those martial arts don’t spar at 100%.  Techniques, and the application of those techniques are drilled with non resisting opponents, focus mitts, heavy bags, and sometimes, the techniques are applied against no resistance at all (Kata).  Practitioners of these martial arts are taught how deadly effective their martial art techniques are, and that this is the reason they can’t try their technique on a live, resisting opponent.  After all, these Shaolin secrets are too deadly to use and you need to register your hands as deadly weapons with the local police department right?  Riiiight.  Look, if my martial arts instructor tells me that my Spinning Preying Mantis Inverted Kick Chop technique is unbeatable, and that I am unbeatable now that I am a triple stripe golden black belt, but I’m not allowed to test myself to see if the techniques I’ve learned are indeed, unbeatable, then I have bought in to the dogma of that martial art.  My belief in my technique is unchecked by resisting opponents, and further propped up and emboldened by my insulated crew of martial artists at my McDojo.  For a history lesson, check out UFC 1 and/or any of the Gracie Challenge videos.

Now, let me try to synchronize my critique of the Safe Space.  Without resistance, we learn nothing.  Without having our technique, physical or intellectual, challenged and checked by fully resisting opponents, then we don’t truly know why we believe what we believe.  We haven’t earned it.  We haven’t expended the necessary effort of analyzing why we believe what we believe.  We haven’t gone through the process of vigorously grappling an opponent that has different objectives in mind.  In the Safe Space of padded university rooms and phony bologna martial art dojos, beliefs are simply adopted and passed on.  These beliefs go unchecked by an opponent trying to break your arm, or a detractor providing a counterpoint (harsh as it may seem!) to the belief you hold that you are convinced is morally correct.

On a symbolic side note: Check out the images in this post.  The safe space triangle is balancing on its point.  The jiujitsu triangle is balancing on its base.  Which triangle is least likely to topple?

(source that inspired this post was found on Joe Rogan’s podcast)